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This post is such a summary that I made and understand from book Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones
Read the others Chapters:
Chapter #1 Lady of Reckless Abandonment
Chapter #2 Lady of Diligence
Chapter #4 Lady of Virtue
Chapter #5 Lady of Devotion
Chapter #6 Lady of Purity
Chapter #7 Lady of Security
Chapter #8 Lady of Contentment
Chapter #9 Lady of Conviction
Chapter #10 Lady of Patience
Where the Boys Are
“…Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home. May the Lord show kindness to you, as you have shown to your dead and to me. May the Lord grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband” (Ruth 1:8-9 NIV)
Naomi pointed Orpah and Ruth, her daughter in law, in the direction of possible prospects to find a new husband, their mother’s home. Orpah took Naomi’s advice and chose the logical sight for future direction “where the boys are”. Her choise based on logical sight and she did not keep her faith in God. Many single women spend their free time searching for the same location as Orpah did. We attend schools because we see the prospect to find Mr. Right even join churches based on apparent of men to women.
“All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord.” (Proverbs 16:2 NIV).
“House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” (Proverbs 19:14).
A woman who takes Orpah’s way (logical sight, sensual) ussually invents way for a ”chance rendezvous” with the man of her dreams. That woman ussually loitering in the very area that her man’s dream regularly frequents, hoping that he might finally notice her and the romance that she has dreameded of will begin. When I read this and write it again, I remember my self. I ever did this such things and ussually did this when I feel that I crushing on a man. 😦 Some woman might sing in the choir, not because she wants to make a joyful voice unto the Lord, but because she wants a weekly chance to sit near the prospect man that her “sensual sight” has focused on.
Just let’s remember again that if the Lord wants to give you a man, He doesn’t need our clever “chance redenzvous”. Check again our motives whenever we find ourself in the presence of “available men”. Is it for God or for our own self? Orpah’s style (logical sight) tends to become the norm, but Ruth offers an alternative to find the Mr. Right. Ruth do what it means to be a Lady of Faith.
Eyes of Faith
“Faith means being sure of the things we hope for. And faith means knowing that something is real even if we do not see it” (Heb. 11:1).
What Orpah’s done, goin’ after the available men, could have influenced Ruth to return to Moab, her parent’s home and the gods of her youth. But, Ruth still remained with Naomi and her God. Ruth certainly must considered the probability of remaining single if she choose back with Naomi. And still, Ruth chose to follow Naomi and her God. She chose to trust God about her future. Ruth looked not by Orpah’s sight, but through “eyes of faith”. She chose to trust the future her eyes couldn’t yet see to God with all her heart. Our hope can’t be put in dreamed-up future, we must put in God, who truly knows us, our past, present even future, who loves us enough to give us the best.
“So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.” (Romans 10:17).
The Lady of Faith will always have times when secure eyes of faith begin to blink into an anxious twitch of insecure, sensual sight. She’ll admit her insecurity to her heavenly Fiance and believe that He can calm the twitching eyes. She’ll spending more quality time with Jesus and reading His Word as “eye wash” for her “eyes of faith”.
“…… and she happened to come to the portion of the field belonging to Boaz …..” (Ruth 2:3).
Orpah with her “chance redenzvous” has a different path with Ruth. Ruth had a divine encounter that effected not only her marital status, but also biblical history. The word happened in Hebrew means “chanced upon”. God providentially directed Ruth to the field of Boaz. Ruth had a chance and her chance brought her into the center of God’s will and right to Boaz’s field. In that time, Boaz was wealthy and available. Ruth did not “have plans” when she chanced upon Boaz’s field. Ruth’s eyes of faith led her to the exact place where she would meet her Mr. Right, Boaz.
If Jesus wants us married, He will plan the encounter. we have nothing to fear except getting in His way. Jesus desires to bless us by giving us the best. Just consider His wisdom and love in comparison to our own wisdom and self-love.
Meeting Across Continents
“He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how will he not also with Him freely give us all things?” (Romans 8:32).
Our circumstances and geographical location do not threaten God’s will and purpose on us. Just like God brought Eve to Adam, Rebekah to Isaac, Ruth to Boaz, He will bring us one day the Mr. Right if we are to be married. Our location and our occupation may not make us very accesible to available godly men, but all those things doesn’t handicap God. Have faith that God will bring us a wonderful, godly guy into our life as Lady of Faith. He seems to suddenly appear out of nowhere. If we are trying to orchestrate the “divine encounter”, we might be setting ourself up for a disappointing crash. Whereever we are, whatever our circumstances may be, be assured that God has not lost our address or our file. God knows exactly where we are and what we need. We have to make the most important decision in life, giving our life to Jesus Christ, by faith. The second most important decision concerns our life-mate, that also demand the element of faith. Many single women have not recognized that the trying, frustating waiting period is the perfect classroom for the Lady of Faith.
“Embrace those dateless nights by faith rest in His faithfulness.”