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This post is such a summary that I made and understand from book Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones
Read the others Chapters:
Chapter #1 Lady of Reckless Abandonment
Chapter #2 Lady of Diligence
Chapter #3 Lady of Faith
Chapter #5 Lady of Devotion
Chapter #6 Lady of Purity
Chapter #7 Lady of Security
Chapter #8 Lady of Contentment
Chapter #9 Lady of Conviction
Chapter #10 Lady of Patience
“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” (James 1:2-4)
Pearl is the most costly and beautiful objects that born out of pain and irritation. A tiny piece of sand slips into oyster’s shell and begins to rub againts the soft tissue, and make irritation. Oyster then produces a hard substance in respone to the irritation. This subtance eventually develops into one of the world’s most beautiful jewels-a lovely luminous pearl. The fact is the greater the irritaion, the more valuable the pearl.
Just like the oyster, Ruth experinced many irritations or trials in her young life. Her loss of her father-in-law and husband, move into strange land even thrown into a new working situation among total strangers with new customs. But through all these stress, Ruth new faith began to wrap itself around the painful situations. God is using the sand of “ singleness” to make us perfect and complete. He’s developing pearl’s character in our life, believe it! If we try to attract a guy with only our personal looks, then we are headed for trouble, since looks don’t last. Because of that, what we look like on the inside is far more important than what we look like on the outside.
Then she fell on her face, bowing to the ground and said to him, “Why have I found favor in your sight that you should take notice of me, since I am a foreigner?” Boaz replied to her, “All that you have done for your mother-in-law after the death of your husband has been fully reported to me, and how you left your father and mother and the land of your birth, and came to a people that you did not previously know” (Ruth 2:10-11).
Boaz was not attracted by Ruth gorgeous hair or her beautiful eyes, he was attracted by Ruth’s character and virtue that displayed in her life. For godly man, woman of virtue is irresistible.
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways….” (Isaiah 55:8)
We, as women, may look ourselves as an ugly shell, but God sees the beauty of what He’s creating in us. Maybe the sands of singleness causing bitterness for us right now, but trust Him. The Lord wants us to be a Lady of Virtue-a costly, beautiful pearl for all to admire.
The Body Beautiful Trap
3“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes”
4 “Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”(1 Pet. 3:3-4 NIV)
Real beauty did not found on the outside, it found in the inside of ourselves. Jackie once said, “If a man chose me for external beauty, his destiny would be hugging a prune. But, if a man chooses me for my internal beauty, his destiny will be unfading beauty even in the twilight years of marriage, because of Jesus.”
In Proverbs 31:10-31, we will see God’s picture of a beautiful woman, virtuous woman. There are 20 verses describing her, but only one verse mentions about her outward appearance. King Solomon said in Proverbs 31:30 (NIV), “Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
Fit for a King
To marry a prince, we must first become a princess. To marry into royalty, we must be appropriately prepared. As we set our attention on developing our godly character, Christ will change us into a beautiful princess He created us to be. God desires that every man and woman develop their inner lives so that through the passing years and fading of outward beauty, their love still deepens and grows.
To Tell the Truth
A lady of Virtue are:
• A person to whom all people are attracted (friendly)
• Seeking God first
• Interesting-with goals for self personally
• Becoming the lady God wants to be
• Truly interested in the person that she date and his best interests
• One who is spiritually challenging
• One who gives friendship
• One who communicates verbally
• Committed to trusting God
• Prepared for lasting friendship
• Open to other friendship
• Secure in the Lord
• Building positive qualities in self
• Trusting God
• Patiently waiting
Stringing Together a Pearl Necklace
“…love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, selfcontrol….” (Galatians 5:22-23).
The qualities Ruth and Rebekah displayed do not come from the jewelry store, virtue is developed over time as we allow God’s Spirit to work in our life. If we desire to be a lady of virtue, we must have those fruit of the Spirit. When we find ourselves lost in the bad thing, confess the sin and be honest with ourselves and do not cover over or excuse the sin in front of God. Be spesific for the sin in front of God and let God forgive us for the sin, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 Jn. 1:9). Once we have received God’s forgiveness, ask the Lord to cleanse us from whatever caused the sin in the first place.
To produce a pearl-producing power, we need:
• Ephesians 4:30a “Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God.” We must first decide to live a life that will please Lord in all respect, set our heart’s desire on exalting Him.
• 1 Thessalonians 5:19 “Do not quench the Spirit.” Seek to obey the Spirit of God in us on a moment-by-moment basis.
• Ephesians 5:18 “…be filled with the Spirit.” To be filled, must empty first. To be filled by the Spirit, we must be empty ourselves and then full by God. Let the Holy Spirit complete and take a total control of our life. When we became a Christian, we received all of the Holy Spirit but to be a virtuous woman, we must let the Holy Spirit have all of our life.
God’s Spirit, however, will produces true inner beauty, as we confess our sin, avoid displeasing God’s Spirit, obey even the slighttests of His promptings, and let the Holy Spirit take a full control of our life.
“Pearls of godly character take time to develop, but how blessed is the woman adorned by them.”